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Is Your Job Killing You?

Posted by Angelica on April - 22 - 2012

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Is your job really killing you? You already know the answer to that question. Just look at your face in the mirror. See all those lines and creases around your eyes and mouth. That’s your body’s signal that your job is slowly sucking the life out of you from the inside and leaving a sagging, empty shell behind. Stress in the workplace can affect every fiber of your being, and it doesn’t stop when you punch out.

Job-related stress is responsible for a host of unpleasant disorders and diseases from high blood pressure to anxiety, depression, and more. Unfortunately, people work stressful jobs because they need the paycheck. Few have the opportunity to storm out of the workplace just because the job is causing them diabetes and heart disease. Find ways to reduce the stress in your life, and try not to take your job too seriously before it’s too late.

 

From: Human Resources MBA

 

 

Tips for Surviving a Clinical Depression

Posted by Angelica on November - 1 - 2011

Quotes of the Day

“Art saved me; it got me through my depression and self-loathing, back to a place of innocence. – Jeanette Winterson”
Depression can seem worse than terminal cancer, because most cancer patients feel loved and they have hope and self-esteem. – David D. Burns”
A lot of people don’t realize that depression is an illness. I don’t wish it on anyone, but if they would know how it feels, I swear they would think twice before they just shrug it. – Jonathan Davis

 

Clinical depression is one of the growing medical problem that women and men around the world are facing and not even realizing it. It’s is a major form of depression that can affect people of all ages (including children), race, and sexuality and will have noticeable effects on a person’s daily life and activities. If you feel that you’ve been suffering from depression for a long time, it’s time now to take control of your life. This article features simple guidelines that will help you to combat depression and live a better life!

Take the depression test @ http://www.lessons4living.com/depression_test2.htm

 

Symptoms of Clinical Depression

  • Inability to sleep or sleeping too much
  • Feeling guilty or worthless
  • Loss of interest in a pleasurable activity or hobbies
  • Having mood swings or feeling depressed most times of the day
  • Weight gain or weight loss at a significant level without changes in food intake or exercise
  • Difficulty concentrating and keeping focus on one thing
  • Difficulty remembering details and making decisions
  • Constant headaches, cramps, pains, and digestive disorders
  • Feeling weak and lack of energy
  • Addiction to smoking, alcohol or drugs
  • Suicidal thoughts or feeling like life is not worth living

 

Tips for Surviving Depression

Combat Sadness, negativity, low energy & anger

  1. Cry it out – Spend time thinking of what is bothering you so much & let it all out. Denial usually makes things worst. You need to face reality and accept whatever it is that has put you through this much of pain.

     

  2. Relaxation – Try meditating to calm your inner soul. Sit in your most comfortable posture & place, close your eyes, and relax completely. Form energy circles and stabilize yourself. Control your mind by facing the questions the mind asks. Observe natural & normal breathing and avoid thinking of anything that is bothering you. Breathing gets easier as you start doing this.

     

  3. Forgiveness – If you’re angry or upset with someone, forgiveness is the key to combat your depression. Hate usually consumes lots of our own energy and makes the body feel drained.

     

  4. Nature therapy – Go out and get some fresh air. Mother Nature is truly the best healer. Imagine listening to the birds chirp, or the flowing water of a stream, the fragrance of pine trees or the blue sky turning orange at sunset.

     

  5. Get support – Talk to a trusted friend. Pouring out your emotions to someone usually releases the burden in the heart and makes you feel lighter. If you really feel you can’t share with the people you know you well, go to forum or chat sites like PacConnection.com to find support from anonymous people who are combating depression successfully.

     

  6. Sweat it out – Exercise triggers the brain cells to boost serotonin, endorphins and other feel-good brain chemicals which work just like antidepressant. It also increases metabolism thus promoting better energy flow. Not to mention, exercise will result in a great hot body you’ve always dreamt off. Need more reasons to exercise?

     

  7. Eat small meals regularly – Boost up & maintain energy level with healthy meals like whole meal sandwiches, baked fish, greens & fruits. Try eating good food every 4 to 5 hours interval to balance the sugar level in the body that can help in relaxation.

     

  8. Sleep it off – A good night’s sleep (7-10 hours for adults) slows down the effects of aging and helps to lower the blood pressure and balance the stress triggering hormones. This process promotes the body muscles to calm down and unwind.

     

  9. Manage stress well –
    Stress is a major cause for depression to form. It is essential to manage stress well, and get the proper support to avoid stress leading into depression. Find ways to minimize the impact of stress especially when it comes to work overload, relationship failures, and managing time.

     

  10. Acupuncture – Traditional Chinese Medication (TCM) treatments has been proven to increase the endorphins level in the body which promotes the feeling of well-being. It’s a similar feeling that is felt when excited, during orgasm, sex, exercise, & love. Make sure though to find a licensed therapist to conduct this intricate treatment.

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Handpicked Humor at its Best – Love, Dating & Women

Posted by Angelica on October - 6 - 2011

 

Nobody Loves me

Mary was having a tough day and had stretched herself out on the couch to do a bit of what she thought to be well-deserved complaining and self- pitying.
She moaned to her mom and brother, “Nobody loves me … the whole world hates me!”
Her brother, busily occupied playing a game, hardly looked up at her and passed on this encouraging word: “That’s not true, Mary. Some people don’t even know you”.

Love

 

Mom knows Best

John who stays in college apartment, invited his mother over for dinner. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn’t help but notice how John and his roommate Julie looked at each other. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between the two and this only made her more curious. By the end of the evening she was convinced there was more between them than met the eye. Reading his mom’s thoughts, John volunteered, “I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you Julie and I are just roommates.”

About a week later, Julie went to John saying, “Ever since your mother came to dinner, I’ve been unable to find the silver gravy ladle. You don’t suppose she took it, do you?”

John said, “Well, I doubt it, but I’ll email her just to be sure.”

So he sat down and wrote: “Dear Mom, I’m not saying that you ‘did’ take the gravy ladle from my house, I’m not saying that you ‘did not’ take the gravy ladle but the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner. Love, John.”

The next day, John received a response from his mother that read:

“Dear Son, I’m not saying that you ‘do’ sleep with Julie, and I’m not saying that you ‘do not’ sleep with Julie. But the fact remains that if she were sleeping in her own bed, she would have found the gravy ladle by now. Love, Mom.”

 

Service Charge

A teenager and his date were parked on a back road outside of town, doing what boys and girls do on back roads outside of town. Things were getting pretty serious when the girl stopped the boy and said “I really should have mentioned this earlier, but I’m actually a prostitute and I charge $20 for sex.”Taxi

The boy just looked at her for a few moments, but then reluctantly paid her the money and they did their thing. After getting dressed again, the boy sat quietly in the driver’s seat listening to the radio and looking out of the front window.

Why aren’t we going anywhere?” asked the girl.

“Well, I really should have mentioned this earlier, but I’m actually a taxi driver and the fare back to town is $25.”

 

First Time Sex

A teenage boy goes into a drug store to buy condoms. The pharmacist says the condoms come in packs of 3, 9 or 12 and asks which one he wants.
“Well,” he said, “I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and she’s really hot. I want the condoms because I think tonight’s “the” night. We’re having dinner with her parents, and then we’re going out. And I’ve got a feeling I’m gonna get lucky after that. I’ll take the 12 as its gonna be a hell of a long night.

The young man makes his purchase and leaves.
Later that evening, he sits down at dinner table with his girlfriend and her parents. The girl’s mom asks if he’d say grace & he agrees. He bows down to say prayer and remains in that position for about 5 minutes. The girl, impatient to his acting, leans over to him and says, “You never told me that you were such a religious person.”
The boy leans over to her and whispers, “You never told me that your father is a pharmacist.”

 

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At the death bed

A woman‘s husband had been slipping in and out of a coma for several months, yet she had stayed by his bedside every single day. One day, when he came to, he motioned for her to come nearer. As she sat by him, he whispered, eyes full of tears, “You know what? You have been with me all through the bad times. When I got fired, you were there to support me. When my business failed, you were there. When I got shot, you were by my side. When we lost the house, you stayed right here. When my health started failing, you were still by my side. You know what?” “What dear?” she asked gently, smiling as her heart began to fill with warmth. “I think you’re bad luck.”

 

Acronyms

Two guys and a girl were sitting at a bar talking about their lives.
The one guy said, “I’m a YUPPIE. You know, Young Urban Professional.”
The second guy responded, “I’m a DINK. You know, Double Income No Kids.”
They then asked the woman, “What are you?”
She replied: “I’m a WIFE. You know, Wash, Iron, Fuck, Etc.”

 

A Woman’s Prayer

I pray for:
Wisdom, To understand a man.
Love, To forgive him and;
Patience, For his moods.
Because if I pray for Strength, I’ll just beat him to death.

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Unusual Funeral

A woman was leaving a convenience store with her morning coffee when she noticed a most unusual funeral procession approaching the nearby cemetery.
A long black hearse was followed by a second long black hearse about 50 feet behind the
first one. Behind the second hearse was a solitary woman walking a pit bull on a leash. Behind her, a short distance back, were about 200 women walking single file.
The woman was so curious that she respectfully approached the woman walking the dog and said, “I am so sorry for your loss, and I know now is a bad time to disturb you, but I have never seen a funeral like this. Whose funeral is it?”
“My husband’s.”
“What happened to him?”
The woman replied, “My dog attacked and killed him.”
She inquired further, “Well, who is in the second hearse?”
The woman answered, “My mother-in-law. She was trying to help my husband when the dog turned on her.”
A poignant and thoughtful moment of silence passed between the two women.
“Can I borrow the dog?”
“Get in line.”


Mirror image

One day, a man comes home from work and greets his wife. Upon seeing him, she asks for $20 to buy meat for dinner.
He leads her to a mirror, holds up the $20 bill and says to her:
“Honey, the $20 in the mirror is yours. The other belongs to me.” Satisfied with his “ingenious” remark, he sits back and the incident is forgotten.
The next day, he comes home and greets his wife. When he goes in the dining room, the table is laden with meats and delicious foods. Shaken, he asks his wife where she got the money. She leads him to the same mirror and lifts up her skirt.
“See that pussy in the mirror? That one belongs to you. The other belongs to the butcher.”


Ten Things Men know about Women

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Handpicked Humor at its Best – Blondes & Beers

Posted by Angelica on September - 3 - 2011

 

Jigsaw Puzzle

Q: Why did the blonde get so excited after she finished her jigsaw puzzle in only 6 months?
A: Because on the box it said “From 2-4 years”.

Jigsaw Puzzle

 

Sky Diving

On the first day of training for parachute jumping, a blonde listened intently to the instructor. He told them to start preparing for landing when they are at 300 feet.

The blonde asked, “How am I supposed to know when I’m at 300 feet?”

“That’s a good question. When you get to 300 feet, you can recognize the faces of people on the ground.”

After pondering his answer, she asked, “What happens if there’s no one there I know?”

 

Blonde Arithmetic

There was once a blonde who decided to join a TV show which tested the arithmetic of participants.

The first question was, “What is 12X3?”

The blonde hesitated a while and answered, “15?”

The audiences were screaming, “Give her another chance, give her another chance!”

Then next question she got was, “What is 14/2?”

The blonde responded, “12, right?”

Once again the rest of the contestants screamed, “Give her another chance, give her another chance!”

The judges decided to go easier on her and asked, “What is 1 + 2?”

“3?” said the blonde.

The audience were screaming, “Give her another chance, give her another chance!”

 

Buying a TV

Buying a TVA blonde goes into an appliances store. She asks a clerk if she can buy the TV in the corner. The clerk looks at her and says that he doesn’t serve blondes, so she goes back home and dyes her hair black.
The next day she returns to the store and asks the same thing and again the clerk said he doesn’t serve blondes.
Frustrated, the blonde goes home and dyes her hair yet again, to a shade of red. Sure that a clerk would sell her the TV this time, she returns and asks a different clerk this time. To her astonishment, this clerk also says that she doesn’t serve blondes. The blonde asks the clerk, “How do you know I am a blonde?”
The clerk looks at her and says, “That’s not a TV – it’s a microwave.”

 

Don’t drink and drive

A drunk is driving through the city and his car is weaving all over the road. Eventually a cop pulls him over.
“Did you know,” says the cop, “that a few intersections back, your wife fell out of your car?”
“Oh, thank heavens,” sighs the drunk. “For a minute there, I thought I’d gone deaf.”

 

Be careful what you wish for

genieTwo fishermen were adrift in their rented boat due to an engine failure. While rummaging through the boat’s provisions, one of the men stumbled across an old lamp. Secretly hoping that a genie would appear, he rubbed the lamp vigorously. To the amazement of the castaways, a genie came forth. This particular genie, however, stated that he could only deliver one wish, not the standard three.
Without giving much thought to the matter the man blurted out, “Make the entire ocean into beer!” The genie clapped his hands with a deafening crash, and immediately the entire sea turned into the finest brew ever sampled by mortals.
Simultaneously, the genie vanished. Only the gentle lapping of beer on the hull broke the stillness as the men considered their circumstances.
One man looked disgustedly at the other whose wish had been granted. After a long, tension filled moment, he spoke: “Nice going idiot! Now we’re going to have to piss in the boat!”


Proud Fathers

Four guys are sitting in a bar. One leaves to go to the bathroom. The guys start talking about their sons. First guy says “I thought my son was going to be a disappointment. He started out sweeping floors for supercuts. But then he graduated from Stanford and became the owner of a car dealership and gives his best friend a free car for his birthday.”
Second guy says, “Yeah, I thought my son would be a disappointment, too. It was almost the same exact thing that happened to my son to yours except he swept floors for a Stock broking company. But soon, he became the owner of that company and got his friend 100,000 dollars in stock money for his birthday.”
Third guy says “Wow, that was the same thing that happened to my son except he swept floors for a real estate agent. But soon he became the owner of this place and gave his best friend a house for his birthday.”
The fourth guy comes back from the bathroom. The guys explain the other guy what they were talking about and asks him if he could tell about his son. He agrees. “Well, my son is a real disappointment to me. He works as a hair dresser and has for fifteen years. He is also gay and has several boyfriends. Well, I look on the bright side; from his boyfriends he got a new house, a new car and 100,000 dollars in stock money.”

Assertiveness – Building your Interpersonal Skills

Posted by Angelica on August - 31 - 2011

Quote of the day

The best defense against atrocious government is an assertive citizenry. – William F. Buckley, Jr.

 

The term assertive is defined in the Oxford Advanced Learners dictionary as “expressing opinions or desires strongly and with confidence, so that people take notice”. Communicating assertively is becoming one of the growing skills that is being learnt & thought in many developing nations. It’s a cognitive behavioral skill that has proven to help express messages across in an effective and affirmative way. Take the test on Mtstcil.org to see how assertive you are.

 

What is Assertiveness?

It’s being able to say “no” politely without feeling guilty about it because you genuinely didn’t have the time to help out. Assertiveness is a balance between submissive & aggressive to a request or question that comes up. It’s particularly important to have a clear assertiveness when disagreeing, confrontation, rejecting, requesting help, accept constructive feedback or standing up for your rights if you’ve been treated unfairly or unreasonably while maintaining a good relationship with the other party. Behaving assertively is not about overriding or offending others but rather about speaking out clearly and effectively.

 

The main characteristics of assertiveness

  1. Expressing yourself confidently & positively so that your message gets through effectively.
  2. Speaking directly or honestly rather than hinting or presuming other will make out your meaning. This encourages other to be open as well as they tend to respect your sincerity.
  3. Giving respect to others while representing your views while avoiding offensive behavior.
  4. Communicating distinctively to be heard & understood.
  5. Behaving openly & relaxed, keeping eye contact, proper respectful tone, participating rather than dominating, calm hand gestures, little blinking, smiling & laughing appropriately & using a neutral tone.
  6. Controlling emotions by remaining calm & confident so opinions & view and stated openly & effective.
  7. Benefits everyone who’s interacting with the assertive person by feeling good about the encounter & shares opinion with respect, won’t waste your time, points are clear, decision can be made thoroughly.
  8. Avoid judgments or exaggerations

 

Benefits of being assertive

  • Get what you want since you speak up and other will know your interest
  • Gain respect as you stick up for your rights, and have strong believes
  • Reduce stress as problems are easier to manage & and resolve
  • Solve problems efficiently as communication is clear and it’s easier to identify possible solutions
  • Improves productivity as a positive environment is created
  • Develops open & honest relationship & builds relationship based on mutual respect

Distinguishing assertiveness, aggressiveness & passiveness

 

Distinguishing assertiveness & aggressiveness

Below are the characteristics of aggressiveness that should not be perplexed with assertiveness:

  • Interrupts oftencharacteristics of aggressiveness
  • Rude & Inconsiderate
  • Glares & stares offensively
  • Crosses arms
  • Invades personal space
  • Speaks loudly for no reason
  • Gives an angry/annoyed facial expression
  • Manipulates or gossips to other to get their points across
  • Has an intimidating or dominating behavior
  • Often portrays a rigid posture, clenched jaw, sarcastic smile, feet’s up, a loud or harsh tone

     

Distinguishing Passiveness from assertiveness

Below are the characteristics of a passive person who fails to assert their thoughts:

  • Speak softly or doesn’t speak out at all
  • Doesn’t contribute much
  • Doesn’t observe eye contact
  • Accepts being pushed around
  • Avoid confrontation or embarrassment but feel frustrated in the long-run
  • Evasive, uncertain & indecisive
  • Doesn’t say no even when uncomfortable agreeing
  • Is Indirect & submissive
  • Shrugs, smiles nervously, hesitates, and depicts a slouching body language

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How to ask for a raise or promotion

Here’s a step-by-step guidance on how to request for a pay raise by using the characteristics of assertiveness as mentioned in the top part of the article:

Step 1: Find out the Industry standard (applies rule #8)

Step 2: Conduct due diligence of your company to see if they can afford your raise or promotion (applies rule #3/7)

Step 3: Prepare yourself well by listing down & quantifying your accomplishment, skills, or improvements that you’ve shown in your employment (applies rule #1/2/4)

Step 4: Schedule a face to face session with your manager to show that you’re serious. This also gives the opportunity to apply confident body languages (applies rule #5)

Step 5: Have a plan B if your request gets turned down. You might decide to gracefully accept the rejection of continue to present other supporting documents like the industry pay scale or achievement which contributed to the departments or company’s growth or success (applies rule #6)

*Tip: Use “I” statement to take ownership of your request e.g.: “I think”, “I believe”, or “I deserve”.

 

How to be respectful when communicating

  • Start with positive statement before going confrontational
  • Show respect to positions or point of view and don’t belittle others approach
  • Present opinion/view in a neutral way without being harsh

 

What if assertiveness doesn’t work?

  1. Repeat to ensure understanding of the other party and give a second chance.
  2. Rephrase your statement as directive/commanding so the listener responds to your request.
  3. Add emotions to show your seriousness e.g.: “I truly hope you understand why I can’t present your case”.
  4. Communicating the consequences (not threat) if listener still doesn’t respond and then implementing when everything else fails.

 

How to Sleep Well

Posted by Angelica on August - 25 - 2011

Quote of the day

There is only one thing people like that is good for them; a good night’s sleep” – “Edgar Watson Howe”

A human spends almost 1/3 of their lives sleeping and this should already tell you why a proper sleep is imperative more than anything else. Studies show that those who sleep between 6 to 9 hours live the longest. This has been proven to be the ideal and optimal sleeping period which is needed by a person.

 

Why is a proper night of sleep important?

Everyone out there at one point or another would have gone through the sleepless nights when the body so badly needs its rest, but somehow the mind doesn’t stop functioning. Dozing off at this point of time might seem like the most impossible thing to do. It’s like someone telling you “Don’t think of pink elephants” and what’s the first thing that appears in your thought? Click the link below that directs you to the alertness test. This illustrates on how well you’ve rested for the day.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/sleep/sheep/

Contrary to this, some other people find that they sleep more than they should be. The cause of oversleeping is mainly due to the lack of sleep itself and other reasons such as disorientated sleeping patterns, habits, stress, or other medical conditions such as diabetes or heart diseases.

Anything more than 9 hours in a day leads to oversleeping which is linked to medical problems such as diabetes, obesity, back pain, heart disease, depression, and increased risk of death. Anything less than 6 hours in a day leads to sleep deprivation which is linked to even more problems such as fatigue, daytime sleepiness; clumsiness, weight loss/gain, trouble focusing, and it affects the brain & cognitive functions. Long-term total sleep deprivation can also cause death.

 

Sleepiness

 

The quality of your sleep directly affects the quality of your waking life, including your mental sharpness, productivity, emotional balance, creativity, physical vitality, and weight. Proper sleep is the most effortless activity which gives you this many benefits and a quality life.

 

The Sleep Cycle – the stages of sleep

There are two types of sleep which is Non-Rapid Eye Movement (NREM) known as quiet sleep and Rapid Eye Movement (REM) known as active sleep. Below are the stages of sleep that takes place when a person hits the bed. The stages below are not necessarily in the order of 1-5.

 

Stages of sleep

The Secrets to a Good Nights’ sleep

Sleeping

 

  • Make sleep a priority
  • Aim for 8 hours of sleep every night
  • Maintain regular sleep schedule, even on weekends
  • Establish relaxing bedtime rituals such as reading, or having a warm bath
  • Make sure not to go to sleep when you’re angry
  • Avoid caffeine, nicotine, & alcohol in the evenings
  • Try to stay away from long naps of more than 2 hours during the day
  • Make your bedroom as dark as possible and avoid distraction of TV/Laptops
  • Listen to relaxing music’s like light Jazz, meditative music, classical piano, spa tunes, etc
  • Keep a miniature fountain by the bed. Flowing water sends relaxing signal to your brains
  • Try breathing techniques from Livestrong.com to help promote sleep
  • Stop working at least 1 hour before bedtime. Your brains need to calm down and relax to be able to fall asleep fast
  • Exercise during the early parts of the day to tire the muscles. This will result in easier dozing off at night as the body would automatically crave for its rest
  • If you don’t fall asleep within 15-30mins upon hitting the bed, get up and do some light activities like reading or listening to music until you feel sleepy again
  • Write down worrying thoughts in a piece of paper which you can review the next morning. Never go to bed with any bothering thoughts in your head.
  • Try warm milk with honey. It has proven to relax your mind and promote better sleep
  • Shop for a good eye mask & ear plugs if the bedroom seems bright or if you have a noisy neighborhood/ partner
  • Invest in a good pillow that helps promote sleep. Check out SleepingPillow.org for more tips on choosing the right pillow.

 

Herbal Remedies to Promote Sleep

Chamomile Tea

Chamomile Tea – sometimes referred to as pineapple weed, it helps to calm the nerves & soothes stomach. Taken in a hot tea form.

Valerian (Valeriana officinalis) – it’s a mild sedative herb that has been reported to help patients with insomnia & sleeping disorders. Its best taken in capsule form due to its strong smell.

PassionFlower (Passiflora incarnate) – safe sedative particularly helpful for insomnia caused by anxiety, worry or an overactive mind. Taken in capsule/ extract form

Kava root extract capsules (Piper methysticum) – a sedative that produces mild euphoria & works as muscle relaxer. Best to be taken in capsule form due to its pungent smell & taste

Lemon Balm (Melissa officinalis) – Traditionally used to reduce stress and anxiety, promote sleep, improve appetite, and ease pain & discomfort from indigestion. Works better when combined with other herbs like valerian.

Try lemon balm as a topical use as the smell is believed to promote relaxation

Ashwagandha
(Withania somnifera) – also known as winter Cherry or Indian Ginseng, this herb carries a Latin name that literally means “sleep inducer”. It has tranquilizing effect that relieves anxiety, increases resistance to stress, uplifts mood and relaxes muscles. It’s taken as a supplement capsule form.

Other herbal products to aid sleep

 

What you need to know before purchasing herbal products:

  • Research if your herbal product can interact with other medications, food or medical conditions.
  • Talk to your doctor before trying an alternative approach and be sure to tell all your doctors what alternative treatments you are using.
  • If you experience side effects such as nausea, vomiting, rapid heartbeat, anxiety, diarrhea or skin rashes, stop taking the herbal product and notify your doctor immediately.
  • Avoid preparations made with more than one herb unless it has been researched before & proven effective.
  • Beware of commercial claims of what herbal products can do. Look for scientific-based sources of information.
  • Select brands carefully. Only purchase brands that list the herb’s common and scientific name, the name and address of the manufacturer, a batch and lot number, expiration date, clear dosage guidelines and potential side effects.

 

Top 10 Outdoor Couples Activity

Posted by Angelica on August - 16 - 2011

Quote of the day

“Ideally, couples need three lives; one for him, one for her and one for them together” – Jacqueline Bisset

 

Its weekend soon and you’re still empty on plans? Staying home again for the weekend might just make it past even faster than you thought and before you know it, Monday blues hit you hard and you’ll be regretting why you didn’t spend the precious time with your loved one strengthening your bond. If you come from a huge family (brothers, sisters, in-laws, grandma, grandpa, nieces, nephews, maid…etc) , this is the time you get to go out; just the two of you and spend that quality time you need while discovering each other in a whole lot of ways.

 

  1. Join Classes

    This is a great way to start a routine together. Pick a favorite mutual activity(Gym, dancing, cooking, arts, music, photography, sports, etc), find a place near your home that offers great classes of your choice, decide on your budget and you’ve established a ritual together at least once a month of learning a new skill together. Make sure not to dominate or convince the other party to say yes to your choice. The goal is to spend quality time together while having lots of fun.

     

    Dancing Class

     

  2. Go for a Romantic dinner

    Romantic dinners can be arranged at any point of the year without needing an occasion as an excuse. On a schedule where both of you are free, make reservations at nice ambience restaurants which you and your partner can get all dressed up and attend. Try restaurants that offer candle light dinner, with relaxing music and tranquility. You can share your feelings and have a good chat about your future plans. Some of the best spots to choose would be by the beach, a place with picturesque scenery, away from the hustle & bustle of the city, or a splurging fine dining where you pay for the ambience.

     

  3. Watch a nice movie in the cinema

    This is one of the most regular things you could do as a couple. Going for the movies usually kindles back the feeling of youthfulness like when you first started dating. Get popcorns, and drinks for sharing and hit the cold & dark cinemas where you get to cuddle each other tightly while enjoying a new blockbuster. Checkout MovieWeb.com for latest/popular movie releases.

     

    Movie at theater

     

  4. Volunteer

    The benefits of volunteering are endless and even more if you do it as a couple. Some of the benefits as include making a positive change for your community, connecting with other, boosting your career, giving a meaning of fulfillment to your life and definitely having lots of fun while doing it. There are many ways you can give to your community and this gives the flexibility to choose to volunteer in the area that interest you most e.g home for elderly/the disabled, zoo, pets shelter..etc. See Wikipedia listing on the different types of volunteering available.

     

  5. Couples Massage/Spa

    Many Spa/Beauty parlors these days offer a wide variety of package for couples to pamper themselves together. Packages are designed to be shared with the significant other and it’s a great time to bond which indulging side-by-side. Some luxury spa’s will provide special features such as shower room, Jacuzzis, dual soaking tubs, or even champagne & strawberry’s.

     

    Couples Massage

     

  6. Travel

    People and couples especially often get nervous when you mention the word travel as it’s usually linked to luxurious holidays with lots of planning, spending & time involved. I would say that this is highly misinterpreted or probably the worst excuse to give. You don’t have to journey a few thousand miles to call it travelling. Try organizing trip to a neighboring state or country which usually has so much more to offer than you think. Take a slow drive together instead of traveling by plane. The adventure is much more rewarding and satisfying and usually doesn’t burn a hole in your pocket. If budget allows, plan to visit the famous “love countries” like Paris, Venice, Bali or the Caribbean’s.

     

  7. Adventurous trips

    If both of you are into outdoor adventures, try arranging trips like hiking, jungle trekking, white water rafting diving, horse riding by the beach or bungee jumping. Outdoor trips bring you closer to Mother Nature and you get to admire the best of what the environment has to offer such as mountains, beaches, streams, rivers, marine life, flora & fauna.

     

    Bungee Jumping as a couple

     

  8. Watch the sunset/star gazing trip

    Do some research on the best places of hangout with great sunset view or star gazing sights, and take a drive there during evenings. Watching the sunset/star gazing while cuddling with each other in pure serenity can be one of the most peaceful and harmonious way of acquainting.

     

  9. Attend concerts/ plays

    Lookout in the entertainment section of newspapers, magazines or media announcements for details on the current happenings at your place. Some of the renowned events which you could attend together depending on preference are celebrity concerts, theatres, rave parties, sports, musicals, dances, talks, parades or festivals.

     

    Concert

     

  10. Attend wedding parties, birthday parties or other social events

    Social events are a great place to go as a couple as you get to meet other couples, friends, family and enables networking. In the event you’re planning your big-day soon, attend wedding parties to get lots of ideas on how you can conduct yours ;).

Handpicked Humor at its Best – Lawyers, Teachers and Rednecks

Posted by Angelica on August - 10 - 2011

The trick question

An engineer, a physicist, and a lawyer were being interviewed for a position as chief executive officer of a large corporation. The engineer was interviewed first, and was asked a long list of questions, ending with “How much is two plus two?” The engineer excused himself, and made a series of measurements and calculations before returning to the board room and announcing, “Four.” The physicist was next interviewed, and was asked the same questions. Before answering the last question, he excused himself, made for the library, and did a great deal of research. After a consultation with the United States Bureau of Standards and many calculations, he also announced “Four.” The lawyer was interviewed last, and was asked the same questions. At the end of his interview, before answering the last question, he drew all the shades in the room, looked outside the door to see if anyone was there, checked the telephone for listening devices, and asked “How much do you want it to be?”

 

Only in hell

God decided to take the devil to court and settle their differences once and for all. When Satan heard this, he laughed and said, “And where do you think you’re going to find a lawyer?”

Devil


Possessions

There was this lawyer who had just bought a new car, and he was eager to show it off to his colleagues, when all of a sudden an eighteen wheeler came out of nowhere and took of the driver’s side door with him standing right there. “NOOO!” he screamed, because he knew that no matter how good a mechanic tried to fix it, it never would be the same again. Unexpectedly, a cop came by, and the lawyer ran up to him yelling. “MY JAGUAR DOOR WAS JUST RUINED BY SOME FOOLISH DRIVER!!!” he exclaimed. “You’re a lawyer aren’t you?” asked the policeman. “Yes, I am, but what does this have to do with my car?!?!” the lawyer asked. “HA! You lawyers! All you care about is your possessions! I bet you didn’t even notice that your left arm is missing did you?” the cop said. The lawyer looked down at his side and exclaimed “MY ROLEX!”

 

Simpson's Brain

The most exclusive brain

A lawyer finds out he has a brain tumor, and it’s inoperable – in fact, it’s so large, they have to do a brain transplant. His doctor gives him a choice of available brains – there’s a jar of rocket scientist brains for $10 an ounce, a jar of regular scientist brains for $15 an ounce, and a jar of lawyer brains for the princely sum of $800 an ounce. The outraged lawyer says, “This is a rip-off – how come the lawyer brains are so damned expensive?” The doctor replies, “Do you know how many lawyers it takes to get an ounce of brains?”

 

Hundred Dollar Bill

Santa Claus, the tooth fairy, and honest lawyer, and an old drunk were walking along when they simultaneously spotted a hundred dollar bill laying in the street. Who gets it?
The old drunk, of course, the other three are mythological creatures.

 

H2O

Teacher: What is the chemical formula for water?
Sarah: “HIJKLMNO”!!
Teacher: What are you talking about?
Sarah: Yesterday you said it’s H to O!

 

How many Rabbits

Teacher: If I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Billy: Seven
Teacher: No, listen carefully again. If I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Billy: Seven…
Rabbits Teacher: Let’s try this another way. If I give you two apples and two apples and another two apples, how many apples have you got?
Billy: Six
Teacher: Good. Now if I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Billy: Seven…
Teacher: How on earth do you work out that three lots of two rabbits is seven?
Billy: I’ve already got one rabbit at home now!

 

Longitude & Latitude = Lonelitude

The teacher of the earth science class was lecturing on map reading. After explaining about latitude, longitude, degrees and minutes the teacher asked, “Suppose I asked you to meet me for lunch at 23 degrees, 4 minutes north latitude and 45 degrees, 15 minutes east longitude…?”

After a confused silence, a voice volunteered, “I guess you’d be eating alone.”

 

Something she didn’t do

A little girl came home from school and said to her mother, “Mommy, today in school I was punished for something that I didn’t do.”

The mother exclaimed, “But that’s terrible! I’m going to have a talk with your teacher about this … by the way, what was it that you didn’t do?”

The little girl replied, “My homework.”

 

Tree Anatomy

Teacher: “Sam, what is the outside of a tree called?”
Sam: “I don’t know.”
Teacher: “Bark, Sam, bark.”
Sam: “Wow, wow, wow!”

 

The Only Idiot

“If there are any idiots in the room, will they please stand up” said the sarcastic teacher. After a long silence, one freshman rose to his feet.
“Now there mister, why do you consider yourself an idiot?” enquired the teacher with a sneer.
“Well, actually I don’t,” said the student, “but I hate to see you standing up there all by yourself.”

 

Misleading Signage

Teacher: Why are you late, Joseph?
Joseph: Because of a sign down the road.
Teacher: What does a sign have to do with your being late?
Joseph: The sign said, “School Ahead, Go Slow!”

 

Naming the Twins

A man was taking his wife, who was pregnant with twins, to the hospital when his car went out of control and crashed.
Regaining consciousness, he saw his brother, a relentless practical joker, sitting at his bed side.
He asked his brother how his wife was doing and his brother said, “Don’t worry, everybody is fine and you have a son and a daughter.
But the hospital was in a real hurry to
get the birth certificates filed and since both you and your wife were unconscious, I named them for you.”
The husband was thinking to himself, “Oh no, what has he done now?” and asked with some trepidation, “Well, bro, what did you name them?”
Whereupon, his brother replied, “I named the little girl Denise.”
The husband, relieved, said, “That’s a lovely name! And what did you come up with for my son?”
The brother replied, “Denephew.”

 

 

Fishing Trip

Funny Fishing

Two redneck guys go on a fishing trip.
They rent all the equipment: the reels, the rods, the wading suits, the rowboat, the car, and even a cabin in the woods. They spend a fortune. The first day they go fishing, but they don’t catch anything. The same thing happens on the seco
nd day, and on the third day. It goes on like this until finally, on the last day of their vacation, one of the men catches a fish. As they’re driving home they’re really depressed. One guy turns to the other and says, “Do you realize that this one lousy fish we caught cost us fifteen hundred dollars?”The other guy says, “Wow! It’s a good thing we didn’t catch any more!”

 

 

Class of Logic

Two rednecks decided that they weren’t going anywhere in life and thought they should go to college to get ahead.

The first goes in to see the counselor, who tells him to take Math, History, and Logic.

“What’s Logic?” the first redneck asks. The professor answers by saying, “Let me give you an example. Do you own a weed eater?” “I sure do.”

“Then I can assume, using logic, that you have a yard,” replied the professor.

“That’s real good!” says the redneck. The professor continues, “Logic will also tell me that since you have a yard, you also own a house.” Impressed, the redneck says, “Amazin!” “And since you own a house, logic dictates that you have a wife.” “That’s Betty Mae! This is incredible!” The redneck is obviously catching on. “Finally, since you have a wife, logically I can assume that you are heterosexual,” said the professor. “You’re absolutely right! Why that’s the most fascinatin’ thing I ever heard! I cain’t wait to take that logic class!!”

The redneck, proud of the new world opening up to him, walks back into the hallway, where his friend is still waiting.

“So what classes are ya takin’ ?” asks the friend. “Math, History, and Logic!” replies the first redneck. “What in tarnation is logic???” asked his friend. “Let me give you an example.

Do ya own a weed eater?” asked the first redneck.

“No,” his friend replied.

“You’re Gay ain’t ya?”

 

Redneck Children

“You’ve just had your twelfth baby miss. What are you going to name this one?”

“Phil”

“But you named the last eleven Phil”

“Yeah it’s great. I say Phil go clean the room, they all go clean their room. I say Phil come for dinner, they all come for dinner.”

“But what if you only want one of them?”

“Oh! Then I call them by their last name.”

 

Why he’s so Special

“How was your first day in third grade, Johnny?” asked his father.

“Good,” said Johnny. “The teacher asked each of us to count to 100. Some kids couldn’t get past 30, but I made all the way to 100 without a single mistake!”

“That’s good, son. That’s
because you’re from Arkansas.”

After the next day of school, he asked again.

“I did good today, too, Dad. In language class, we had to say the alphabet. Some kids couldn’t get past P, but I made all the way to Z without a single mistake!”

“That’s good, son. That’s because you’re from Arkansas.”

After the third day of school, Johnny came home looking troubled.

“What’s the matter, son?” asked Dad.

“Oh, I dunno. Today we had Physical Education, and afterwards, in the shower, I noticed that, well, the other boys in my class, uh, well Dad, they all have little tiny ones. Mine must be ten times bigger than theirs! Is that because I’m from Arkansas?”

“No, son,” explained Dad. “That’s because you’re 18!”

The Search for Happiness

Posted by Angelica on August - 4 - 2011

How to be Happy & Contented

 

Quote: “Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

~Anonymous~


Happiness is defined as a state of well-being and contentment accompanied with the feeling of pleasure and satisfaction. When we experience happiness, we feel fortunate and blessed and everything around us would seem magnificent. Most people these days are searching too hard and too far for this feeling to appear when what we really need to do is step back, unwind, and enjoy the present moment as it is. When you do this, you’re already on your way to enjoying this feeling.

How happy are you this very moment? Take the Happiness test at Oprah.com

 

The small little things to heighten the blissful feeling of happiness:

  • Happiness is a choice – recognize that being happy is more than an emotion; it’s a choice of how you want your state of mind to be. To embrace happiness, you must first let go of your misery. You can choose joy over sadness, positivity over negativity. No one should have control on your emotions

     

  • Be thankful to God – how often do we focus on life’s problem that we miss to see that each day is a blessing to be able to wake up alive. Constantly remind yourself about this and appreciate this gift and take time to pray.

    Thankful to god

     

  • Take regular time-off for yourself – if you’ve been on a streak of high-pressuring lifestyle, make sure to take breaks as and when your mind or body suggests you too. Spend time with family, go for holidays, have solitude moments of reflection, or just let your body have the sleep it needs. Come back to reality with more productivity, alertness and efficiency

     

  • See the positive in others – if you tend to develop hatred towards others more often that you should, it might be one of the reason that’s draining your happiness. Everyone would possess a goodness in themselves and the key is to find the positivity in people and try focusing on that instead

     

  • See beauty in the tiniest creations – many times, we are so bogged down with the rush & intensity of life that we fail to see beauty in littlest formation. Take time to appreciate the morning dew of a bloom, the sound of water flowing, the orange sunset, or the smell of roses

    Beauty inNature

     

  • Laugh more – it improves blood circulation, & releases pain-reducing endorphins. Laughter instantly brightens your mood and releases tension

     

  • Learn something new – you would never know your full capability until you’ve tried new things. Take up art classes, attempt a new sport, try an exotic food, or go places you’ve never been before. Life is much more than it seems and you need to get out of your comfort zone. On the other hand, never do something just because everyone else is doing it. Do what you heart wants and you’ll enjoy every moment of it

     

  • Spend time with children – a child is pure, naïve and totally free-spirited. Sometimes, you just need to become a child to feel joyful. Play games with children, watch movies with them, try bonding with them to learn how they take life so effortlessly

    Child is pure, naïve and totally free-spirited

     

  • Giving – I’ve read about the act of giving from people who have much and people who have very little. Multibillionaires, the kind in heart, those who don’t have but yet offer are people who have given testimonials of how generosity gives them inner peace of mind. Giving not necessarily need to be in the form of money or things, it could also be in the form of time, energy or voluntary services. If you have old clothes or things that you’re not using anymore, give them out today. Someone out there would have a use for it

     

  • Get acquainted with your old friends – This is a great way to feel young instantly. Remember the days you had in school which had been free-spirited & unstressed? You can rekindle the feeling by getting in touch with the people who shared the moments with you

     

  • Smile often – What do you think are the odds of you smiling and not receiving the smile back in return? In a completely civilized culture, this should be very minimal or zero. Smile is a way humankind reflect gestures of greetings and it inspires instant happiness

    Smile often

     

  • Pursue your innermost dream – find out what you’ve always wanted to do and do it. It could be dancing, owning your own garden, or even rocket science. No one should tell you that you’ve incompetent of anything other than yourself. You know your strengths & weaknesses and have full control over them

     

  • Take time to enjoy your food – Food is a way of feeding your soul. So much has been stressed about consuming the right nutrients and vitamins essential for your body in the form of a healthy & content meal. Breakfast, lunch, tea-time & dinner are the essential meals that you should consume without distracting yourself on other thoughts or happenings. Of course you could get companies like a loved one, friends or co-workers to join you for your meals, but concentrate on happy or positive socializing instead of gossiping or stressful topics

     

  • Be alert of the small miracles that happen around you – miracles happen around us at all forms, the birth of a kitten, a guardian angel protecting you from the pothole, or the promotion that you get at work. Look at these as a grace of God and you’ll instantly feel happiness or satisfaction building in you

    smurfette

     

  • Reward yourself – you don’t need others telling you how accomplished you are. There’s no better person to tell you that you’ve done a great job and deserve the pat on the back than yourself. If you feel that you’ve achieved something significant in your life, get yourself rewarded by sending yourself fresh flowers, buying yourself a good book, or going for the travel escapade of your dreams

     

  • Avoid gossips – Good news travels fast, and bad news faster; for whatever reason that is. Do not let gossip control your life. It is essential to pour out your feeling as times, but don’t do it at the cost of everyone else. The path to happiness is through praises & compliments, not condemns & criticizing. Remember that good words will establish you reputation as a person, earn you trust, respect and admiration of other. And this applies vice versa

     

  • Take up good habits – sleeping on time, exercising, personal hygiene, punctuality are all great habits than should be incorporated into our routines. These simple habits will keep our lives on-track and happiness would supersede stress or depression. After all, it only takes 21 days to institute a good habit!

     

  • Read, listen or sing to motivations or inspiration – we all have that time when life throws a lemon. When we fall, we get up, dust ourselves and always move forward. If a situation seems overwhelming, try help of books, songs or motivational videos that will guide you to the road of recovery

     

  • Manage your Debts – money matters have been one of the stress inducing component when not managed wisely. Always pay your debts on-time, never spend more than you earn, live within your means, and enjoy simple things in life. Remember that money buys comfort, but “Money can never buy Happiness”

    Snoopy

     

  • Trust others – in the current dog eat dog world, it might not be the best advice to be sharing. However, it is significant to have a certain amount of trust in people we come across, work with or live with. Trusting gives an inner peace and guide to a life path. *Disclaimer: never give out possession in the name of trust, always conduct a proper due diligence when it comes to money. You should never cheat others nor let others cheat you.

Garden of roses – Part II

Posted by Angelica on August - 2 - 2011

Tips for growing & caring for your rose plant

Quote of the day
“We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.”

So you’ve contemplated that the rose plant in the nursery looked remarkably beautiful and decided to get one for your backyard. What next?

If you’ve always wanted to wake up to a balcony of roses in the morning, here’s an article of a step-by-step guide on how to grow & care for your rose plant. Rose plants are like babies. It would take a special person to grow this special flower.

 

Beautifull white rose in a pot

 

Planting the Roses

Before choosing a spot to place your rose, make sure sunlight is readily available as the rose plant would need good sun exposure. If you plan to re-plant the rose tree from a poly-bag to the ground or bigger pot, soak it in a pail of water for about 2-8hours to soften the soil.

General rule of rose plants are that they have large roots & it’s essential to provide a deep pot/ hole for root growth. Soil is encouraged to be added with organic matters/ black soil to get a texture which will be easy water absorption. Roses need lots of water & ventilation, and proper fertilization.

Fertilization starts 2-3 months upon planting. Roses will bloom better if you use NPK (Nitrogen, Phosphorous, and Potassium) ratios of about 1:2:1 that is more Phosphorous than nitrogen or potassium. Too much Nitrogen will lead to the plant preferring leaf growth to flower growth. A good rule for fertilization is bi-weekly/ once every 2 weeks for optimal results. Bear in mind that too much fertilization can kill any plant.

You could use mulch such as shredded wood, stones, coconut husk, sawdust, or hay. Mulching is essential for the plant to prevent water loss, discourage weed growth & avoid soil erosion. It also adds beauty to the garden.

 

Planting the rose

Watering Roses

For tropical hot weather where the temperature is around 30° Celsius, it’s essential to water your rose plants every day.

If it rains, heavily, you can skip watering for the day. On a day that rains less, it’s good if you just mist the leaves & flowers. If the sun shines hotter than usual, you might want to water it twice a day i.e. morning & evening.

If your rose plant has mulch, you would not need to water it too much as the mulch will retain the plants hydration for a longer time. Roses in pots will generally need more watering than those on the ground. It is not advisable to keep a plant at the bottom of the pot to retain water as the water on the dish can cause rotting of the roots. Try avoiding watering into the blooms as the water would remain stagnant in the flower buds and cause it to rot.

Use judgment when watering plants, hotter weather would need more water and colder weather less. Too much water will cause rotting of roots, & too less will cause infertility & dry out the plant.

 

Pruning for Rose Plants

The rose plants need pruning done as soon as the first batch of blooming comes to an end. The benefits of pruning includes promoting growth & bloom, to enhance light & air absorption, to remove dead or damaged stems, & shaping the plant.You would need to cut all branches and leave only about 6-10 healthy branches. You would need gloves to protect your hands from the thorns, a good quality bypass pruner. The right place to cut is above the bud.

Pruning Rose StemRose Stem


Step-by-step pruning

  1. De-weed the rose plants with your hand by removing unwanted grass or leaves 

  2. Start by removing dead/ unhealthy stems& 

  3. Cut off thin stems that seem like crowding the tree 

  4. Prune more in the centre to increase air & light ventilation 

  5. Cut surface should be white. If brownish, re-cut until white surface is reached 

  6. Make all cuts above a leaf bud that points towards the outside of the plant 

  7. Remove any branches that grow at the bottom as this would cause the plant to sag 

  8. Keep only healthy branches with dark green leave

 

Treating Common Rose Problems

Here are the most common diseases that will hit your rose plants and treatment methods

  1. Powdery Mildew/Black Spots/Rust – It’s a fungal problem which occurs during dry & humid season. It has distinctive symptoms of white spots on leaves and stems. Left untreated, the leaves will start dropping and soon cause the plant to die off. Early treatment is best.

    Treatment: To reduce this problem, water the plants (best during mornings) on the soil & less onto the leaves, to avoid residue build up or moisture retain. Air circulation & sanitation is important to prevent this problem and this can be attained by frequent pruning and cleaning up of leaves. Try spraying mixture of 1 tsp baking soda, ½ tsp oil, & 1 litre of water to treat and stop this problem. Another treatment solution involves dusting sulfur on the leaves affected as this would help to prevent spread. You could also use chemical fungicides (at a controlled level) to exterminate this fungal diseases.

     

    Rose LeafRoes LeafsGreen Rose Leaf

     

  2. Rose Mosaic – Is a virus induced problem (Rose Mosaic Virus/RMV) that affects you plant. A whitish or yellowish mosaic form, zig-zag patterns appear. This disease reduces the plants vitality and blooming but hardly ever kills the plant.

    Treatment: Sadly, this kind of infection doesn’t have any treatment. The only way to control this problem is by thorough checking before purchasing a new plant or if suspected to have an infected plant in the garden; it is advisable to remove the infected plant all together.



    Rose Mosaic

The Science of Stress

Posted by Angelica on July - 30 - 2011

Quote: “The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”

 

Stress has become a major problem in our society and the sad thing is really, people who are stressed are either not aware about this or are still living in denial. High stress level makes us feel tired, anxious, and unable to concentrate, tensed, over alert, & depressed. These symptoms soon lead to insomnia or trouble sleeping, eating disorder (overeating or eating less than usual) & addiction towards short term help such as smoking, alcohol & even drugs. When we are stressed, things happen to us in a reaction of the brain telling the body “Survival is getting hard, so get ready to battle”.

Why do we feel stressed?

Organizational factor

Excessive workload

Long working hours

Work affecting home life

Continuous crisis management

Lack of communication

Lack of recognition

Managerial Biasness

Bullying

Harassment

Racism/ Sexism

Repetitive work

Numerous rules & guidelines

Lack of interest

Trust Issues

Isolation

Boredom

Salary related issues

Threats of poor performance

Comparisons among others

Lack of support from managers

Lack of control

Environment factor

Poor work environment

Air Conditioning problems

Too little workspace

Poor lighting

Lack of resources or tools

Noise pollution

Travelling

Poor ventilation

Poor pantry/ washroom facilities

Self factor

Negativity

Lack of motivation

Self Doubt

Low confidence/ self esteem

Health problems

Loss of direction

Financial matters

Family Problems

Changes (marriage, divorce..)

How much stress can we handle?

 

 
 
In a book I read recently, “Managing Workplace Stress: A best practice Blueprint” written by Stephen Williams & Lesley Cooper; it caught my attention on how stress was elucidated.
 
 
 
 

It was an explanation in a simple graph form but made complete sense on how stress or pressure affects productivity:

Level of stress

This graph explains how pressure affects performance which is divided to 5 levels.

Level 1: Known as the Rust Zone is when we are put under very little pressure that causes unproductively due to boredom or don’t care attitude. People in this level have the tendency to brush of task and constantly complaint of boredom.

Level 2: Known as the Comfort Zone is when we are at the level of stress that is comfortable to our tolerance. People are productive doing the task they know or are good at. Most people in the workplace tend to fall into this group.

Level 3: Known as the Stretch Zone is when we push ourselves out of our boundaries of comfort zone thus getting into the ‘learning curve’. This level is usually when both employees & employers gain optimal results of productivity.

Level 4: Known as the Strain Zone is the continuity of Stretch level stress which is the starting point for productivity loss and cause of other illnesses related to stress. People managers are usually ignorant at this point when they don’t see the need to stop or decrease the pressure input on staffs.

Level 5: Known as the Panic Zone is when we are intolerant to stress anymore and stress has overpowered our personal lives and caused major drop in productivity. This is the point which people face nervous breakdowns, panic attacks, major illnesses & change in behavioral attitude towards negativity.

When to say no?

It is healthy to give & receive pressure right up to the Stretch Zone, but once a person feels the symptoms of stress kicking, it’s wise to put a clear stop sign. Any further push factor done by an individual at the Strain Zone will lead to physical illness such as body aches & pain, diarrhea or constipation, frequent cold, rapid heartbeat, & gastrointestinal problems. It is the body’s way of telling to mind ‘Enough Already’.

Bear in mind that different people have different tolerance level to stress. Just because a peer is hanging on, you are not obliged to put up with high amount of stress. Remember that our health comes as a priority and surpasses any other resources available.

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